Good mannered muslimahs

1. Avoid sleeping between fajr and ishraq, and between asr and maghrib.

“I asked Jaabir ibn Samurah, ‘Did you used to sit with the Messenger of Allaah?’ He said, ‘Yes, frequently. He would not get up from the place where he had prayed Subh until the sun rose. When the sun rose, he would get up. They used to talk about things that had happened during the Jaahiliyyah, and they would laugh and smile.’”Saheeh Muslim (1/463) , hadeeth of Sammaak ibn Harb

2.  Refrain from sitting among smelly people.

"He who eats onion and garlic and leek, should not approach our mosque for the angels are harmed by the same things as the children of Adam. "
Kitab Al-Salat, Book 004, Number 1147

The importance of all the salaahs

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, "No Salat is more burdensome to the hypocrites than the Fajr (dawn) prayer and the 'Isha' (night) prayer; and if they knew their merits, they would come to them even if they had to crawl to do so."

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

The importance of all prayers

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, "No Salat is more burdensome to the hypocrites than the Fajr (dawn) prayer and the 'Isha' (night) prayer; and if they knew their merits, they would come to them even if they had to crawl to do so."

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Marriage

 A Woman should not be married against Her will.

narrated by abdullah ibn abbas: a virgin came to the prophet and mentioned that her father had married her to a man against her will, so the prophet allowed her to exercise her choice.

another hadith asserts this point.

narrated by abdullah ibn abbas:

the prophet said: a guardian has no concern with a woman previously married and has no husband, and a virgin must be consulted; her silence being her acceptance. (book 5, number 2095: abu dawud)

In many societies today women are still forced to marry men whom they have no interest in. Islam prohibits this kind of arrangement. A muslimah has the right to choose whom she wants to marry and not be forced otherwise. If a muslimah finds herself in a situation like this it is advisable to consult those with good knowledge of deen to come and advise her family or parents against this. This should be done respectfully as muslims have an obligation to obey and respect parents.

The last 10 days of Ramadan and Laylatul qadr

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

I pray you all have been in the bet of iman and health, thus able to take advantage of the first 20 days of the holy month with bountful rewards. We have come to the last 10 days and we have to be even more vigilant. The last 10 days of Ramadan and these are very important days. In these days the prophet (sallalahu alayhi wa salaam) used to increase his worship; 

 Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said, "With the start of the last ten days of Ramadan, the Prophet used to tighten his waist belt and used to pray all the night, and used to keep his family awake for the prayers." (Bukhari)

This is the time for all of us to increase our ibadat:  forgive one another, engage more in charity,  pray the night prayer- tahashud, read and memorise more qur'an, learn some more hadiths, and encourage our friends and family to do the same and a whole lot more things.

The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, “Whoever stands the nights of Ramadan in prayer out of faith and seeking reward shall have their previous sins forgiven.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

Apart from all these beautiful works we can do for abundant rewards there is one more  enjoyable and blessed act in  this holy month in this 10 days, this  is the performance  of i'tikaf.  

Aishah Radhiyaallahu Ta’ala anha reported that the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam Used to perform I’tikaf during the last ten days of Ramadan untill Allah the Mighty and Majestic, took away his life, then his wives follwed this practice after him.

(Bukhari, Muslim)

“But do not have sexual relations with them (your wives) while you are in retreat in the mosque. These are the limits of Allah do not apporach them”.

(Qur’an, 2:187)

It is good for all muslims to take part in this beautiful retreat even mothers who are tending the young. This is a good deed and one cannot afford to lose out completely on it.  One can make niyyat for i'tikaf when one goes to one's musallah for prayer for a shport period and not the normal length of i'tikaf.  It is recommended for women to perform i'tikaf in a quiet , secluded place in their own homes according to the Hanafi school.

 Also in our midst at this time  is the blessed night of power : laylatul qadr. This night should not be missed.  Read more here.

We have indeed revealed this (Message) in the Night of Power:

And what will explain to thee what the night of power is?

The Night of Power is better than a thousand months.

Therein come down the angels and the Spirit by Allah's permission, on every errand:

Peace!...This until the rise of dawn!

—Sura 97 (Al-Qadr), ayat 15

Women must have their own study arenas

It is important that the believing women understands that free mixing of the sexes is strongly prohibited in Islam.  Women need to learn the need as it is a right and responsibilty upon every muslim, and women must learn in a separate arena from the men. This is shown in this hadith:

Narrated by Abu Huraira: a group of women came to Allah’s prophet(salallahu aleyhi wa salaam) and said to him: “we cannot attend your majlis (gathering) of men, so, appoint us a day to come to you (alone).” He(salallahu aleyhi wa salaam) said: “we will meet at the house of so and so.” He(salallahu aleyhi wa salaam) went to them on the specified date and place. Among what he said at that day to the present women was “any woman who raises up three children for the sake of Allah will enter paradise.” One woman said: “and two?” “and two,” the prophet(salallahu aleyhi wa salaam) said.

For my dear friend

"I begin in the name of Allah,Most Kind,Most Merciful. From Muhammad, Allah's Messenger to Mu'az- Ibn-Jabal. May the peace of Allah be on you.l  praise Allah before you,the One besides whom there is none worthy of worship.
After praising and glorifying Allah, (I say the following.) May Allah give you great reward and may He guide you to exercise patient endurance and may He (also) guide us and you to be grateful to Him.Surely, our souls, wealth and families are wonderful gifts from Allah Azza Wajalla which He has loaned to us so that we may take benefit from them for a set period; and he takes them away after the termination of that period Thus, gratitude becomes binding on us when He gives, and patience becomes obligatory when He takes away.Your mom was also from among the wonderful gifts (of Allah) and a loan (from Him) AIlah enabled you to enjoy him in away that was both enviable (to others) and pleasing (to you); and now, in return for great reward, mercy and forgiveness  providing you exercise patience- he has taken her away from you. So do exercise patience and do not let your bewailing and complaining destroy your reward, for you will be sorry (if this happens) Know that bewailing and complaining does not help bring back anything nor does it repel grief and sorrow. And whatever is to happen is set to happen. May you be in peace."


Words fail me now...